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Court filing fees- average between $250.00- $275.00 depending on county you are in.  Process server fees- average between $75.00 -$175.00 depending on where you are having the other party served. Psychological Evaluations- If you have concerns about other party having mental issues that result in psychological evaluations being needed. These cost are often not covered by insurance. Forensic Accountant- If you are concerned about your spouse hiding money in a high asset divorce, a forensic accountant may be beneficial. Cost vary, between $5,000.00 and $15,000.00. Mediation- Private mediators $800-$1500 for the mediator, plus attorney fees for representation during mediation. Note, most divorces are resolved in this stage, which can save you thousands of dollars. Divorce Attorney- most attorneys charge by the hour for their time. Hourly rates vary depending on experience level of attorney handling your case and complexity of your case. Google tells you the average cost of a divorce in Oklahoma is between $4,000.00- $8,000.00 Hayes Legal Solutions, PLLC is very resolution oriented and often is able to resolve cases for much less.  Supervised Visitation costs- $40-60 hr. Guardian Ad Litem- GAL's are needed in highly contested custody cases. GAL's typically charge retainers between $1500.00 and $2,000.00 to begin work. This is a third attorney represents the interests of minor child. Retainer- Fee attorney charges to begin work on your case. Retainers for divorce cases in Oklahoma typically range between $2000.00 and $5,000.00 depending on the complexity of the case. Payment Plans- Hayes Legal Solutions, PLLC accepts payment plans on a case by case basis.  Experts- If you go trial, sometimes experts are needed to testify on custody issues and/or business evaluations.

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January is often dubbed as the beginning of divorce season because a lot of couples stay together during the holidays for the children. Then, as the New Year approaches, couples realize their underlying marital problems are still present. It is also a good time if you have children, because the process could be complete or almost complete by the beginning of summer, which would give the children a chance to get used to their new normal.

5 To-Dos When Facing A Divorce in the New Year Secure liquid funds, if possible before your spouse takes you off marital accounts. Get a separate account for your living expenses and attorney fees. Begin Gathering Financial Documents.  Compile all documents you can. Start pulling bank statements for the past few years, tax returns, retirement statements. These documents contain information that will be essential to determining the existence of certain assets, the value of certain assets, the value of your community estate, and your relative access to liquid funds. Create a monthly budget.  Your single household is about to become two.  You need to know what you can afford on a monthly bases going forward. Before filing, consider preparing your family for divorce.  Children benefit from a joint statement from parents regarding the divorce. The deleterious effects that can result from a divorce are not limited to you and your spouse and tend to be far reaching- affecting children, extended families, and friends.  Bottom line: use your best  judgement and consider the history of your interactions with your spouse before you inform your family of the divorce. Change your passwords and get new email addresses.

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Narcissist also are known to use the following tactics to make their spouse miserable during the process: Avoid service- hide from process servers and refuse to waive service. Hide funds. Drag out the divorce, by asking for continuances and/or filing excessive motions. Strategically try to make the other spouse so miserable, they give up. Push you to settle too quickly. Threaten to take everything. Reflect what they have done wrong on to you. 

As summer vacation season winds down, a lot of marital problems come to a head as the school year begins.  Parents are often conflicted as to whether the beginning of a school year is the right time to dissolve a marriage. Deciding to divorce your spouse is a very personal decision. Below are a f...

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ips for divorcing a Narcissistic Spouse Go to therapy/counseling Lean on your support system. Pick and Choose your battles. Set and maintain boundaries. Engage in self-care activities Work with an experienced attorney

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Below are 5 tips to reduce conflict with your spouse in high-conflict custody battle: 1.) Plan the children's summer activity schedule in advance, stick to the schedule. 2.) Plan vacations ahead of time, communicate to your spouse your schedule and give them information as to what activities your child be participating in  and who they will be around. 3.)  Be careful about what you post on social media when traveling with your children.  A pitcher of margaritas with the kids in the background can be re-appear at the most inopportune times. 4.)  Detailed schedules about the childrens activities limit conflict because everyone is on the same page as to what the kids will be doing. 5.)  All situations are different, it is best to reach out to an attorney early in the divorce process to develop a strategy and joint custody plan that will fit your needs.

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